2014: a brief recap

It’s been quite some time since I’ve actually posted.  I’ve typed several entries but haven’t put them out there for various reasons.  This is where I’m at.

I don’t regret holding Rich (my sig. other) hostage about his ‘edited for content’ episode over the summer.  I did what I needed to do, he ‘edited for content’ did the proper thing and he’s still here with me, we are still together after all these years.  He’s ‘edited for proper content, thank you federal government’ and I am VERY grateful for his existence.

My hair has grown back, status post St. Baldrick’s in March of 2014.  There have been a few grays, but I’m glad to have any hair regardless of the color so I don’t complain.  Out loud.  Where others can hear me.

I’m still reeling from unsuccessful fertility treatment in 2013.  It’s the worst failure I’ve ever felt in my life.

I’ve acquired a second job at Joann Fabrics.  My addiction has become a source of income.  And, New York State is raising the minimum wage to $8.75/hr next week (seriously?!?) so I get a raise.  It’s as much a social experiment as anything else.  There’s no way anyone can legitimately live off minimum wage.

I’ve gone through several medication adjustments for the bipolar diagnosis because of side effects and ineffectiveness of some of the medication.  I can heartily support very close contact with your medical provider and don’t give up.

I’ve had to stop knitting and crocheting because of bilateral wrist pain.  I’m very disheartened by this.  I’m having arthroscopic surgery on my left (dominant) wrist in February and likely scoping of my right when I’m recovered from the initial scope.  I’m disappointed this holiday season that I haven’t been able to craft as much as I wanted to because of my pain level.  I can either work or craft, and obviously work (very heavy typing) wins the day.

I have started sewing again, because of my 2nd job and my wrist issues.

Rich has a steady job on 2nd shift at UPS.  Some days we don’t see each other but I generally stay up until he gets home.  Have to keep the connections active.

My cat Pippin is having separation anxiety because Rich isn’t here as often.  I’m at a loss as to what to do.

I’ve admitted to myself that I live vicariously through some of my Facebook contacts and I’m okay with this, because I’m SO happy for their respective happiness!

Stone By Stone: Please check out this cause I am very passionate about.

I’ve left the church I was attending, and am currently adrift.  Working the 2nd job has contributed towards keeping me from searching for another church to go to.

I lost a very VERY dear kitty friend this year.  I was very fortunate to visit her on her last day, and am glad for the friendship and bond I had with her over the years.

I’m currently being nagged to go to bed because it’s after midnight and we are a wee bit short on staff at work, so I’m signing off.  More to come in 2015.

I want to talk about Brittany Maynard. Moreso, I want her discussion to lead to a discussion which goes viral.

Confessions of a Funeral Director: Let’s Talk About Brittany Maynard.

I haven’t posted in a few months, for mostly personal reasons.  Majority are health related, not applicable here.

I want to talk about Brittany Maynard.  Moreso, I want her discussion to lead to a discussion which goes viral.

My response to this article:

Death is a part of life. The Lion King is cliche but it’s a circle. We start with life, we become the earth, other organisms are sustained by this. Talking about death is not scary. What is terrifying is an individual and a family suddenly faced with a situation where decisions need to be made very quickly, sometimes before emotions can cool and reasonable discussion can take place. In the medical field, this unfortunate situation happens all the time, and I only work in family medicine, not the emergency room or other sudden trauma situation.

Have the discussion with your family. Think about what YOU want. And when you decide what YOU want, find those friends & family you KNOW will get your wishes done despite their own personal feelings, when/if/should you pass unexpectedly. Organ donoror no, or only some organs? Life support or no, or to what extent? Feeding tube or no, and to what extent? CPR or no?

I strongly encourage you to consult with both your family AND your medical provider, who can help ensure the proper/legal paperwork is in place to help make sure your wishes are carried out to the letter. I encourage anyone who doesn’t know what they want, want help having the discussion, have questions, etc. schedule an appointment with their provider specifically to discuss this topic.

Because whether or not we recognize it, just like taxes, we have NO choice but to deal with it. It’s either your predetermined wishes or those of family members consulted after death. There are NO wrong and NO right answers. The correct answer is the one which fits with YOUR wishes. This is one of the most important discussions EVERYONE regardless of age or health or sex should discuss with their medical provider, and if not their provider for whatever reason, their friends & family they want in place for when death happens, expected or sudden

Patients don’t always know that their wishes can be changed at ANY time, and for any reason. If yesterday you were ok with a ventilator and today you’re not, or vice versa, it can be changed in real time, and made legal. You don’t need a lawyer, and it doesn’t cost anything to complete a health care proxy and a living will in New York State. Your family medical provider (or hospital staff, if you are inpatient) are able to give you all the tools you need to create a legally binding document (which your lawyer should have, should you have one). I will not give opinions on any decisions, but I will GLADLY share my experience to help ANYONE become more aware of the discussion and the process.

As a medical professional,  I don’t care what your wishes are.  My concern is that they are known.  My larger concern is that your wishes are legally documented so there is no question should something happen.  Your feelings about your death are SO profound.  Nobody asked if you wanted to be born vaginal or via c-section, did they.

It’s time to greatly expand the conversation so it’s not so uncomfortable and awkward, and eliminate the stigma about the entire discussion.  Just because you’re thinking about how you want to be treated medically when you can’t speak for yourself does NOT mean you have a death wish.  It does NOT mean you expect to be stricken with a severe illness or a sudden fatal disease.  It does NOT mean you are worried about dying in a car accident.

What this ultimately does, is to get you thinking about how you want things to go, because you DO have options, regardless of the situation.  This talk, although it may be a bit awkward, opens a dialogue of communication.  And the sheer weight it removes from the shoulders of those who will be asked about your wishes when the time comes is absolutely worth the awkward discussion, be it three days or three years before the time they are being asked.

What a blessing it is to be able to make medical decisions for your loved one who can’t speak on their own behalf, yet still know what they would decide, if they were able.  Even if you disagree, you are still able to ensure their choice is being followed.  This allows you to continue to be a family member, and not the “one” who made all the decisions on “fill in the blank”s behalf.

As a medical professional, I cannot stress how important and vital and beneficial this discussion is to the health of any relationship, including people with children, kids just turning into adults and in charge of their health care decisions for the first time in their lives.  Hopefully this conversation will evolve over the years among the involved family/friend members, so it remains current.

My own personal experience, which I’ve been reluctant to share because I don’t want it to bias this post, is when my Gram was dying in 2011.  She had a living will and a trustworthy healthcare proxy.  Although as her family we may not have fully supported her decisions (I will not divulge details) we knew in advance what they were, and were able to ensure they were followed.  That was the greatest gift she gave us.  Well, that and her uncompromising stubbornness, but mostly her preemptive discussion about her death.

Why I refuse to take place in the ALS vs. ice water bucket challenge.

I imagine this post will likely not be received well.  First, let me say that any effort to raise money for a cause is worthy of recognition.  The term ’cause’ may at times be loosely employed, but I believe at the heart of the matter, people are good and labor under good intentions.

So, here’s my beef with this topic.

I spend a significant of time, money, and energy to raise money for various causes.  The details aren’t relevant.  What is relevant is my personal effort to try to affect good in this world.

I believe in free will.  I readily admit there are people who aren’t interested in supporting a cause.  I don’t see this as a character defect.  Folks have their own reasons for participating or not, and it’s not up to me to call out their reasons either way, and it’s definitely not up to me to assert judgement on whatever the circumstance may be.  I’d love it if everyone were ready, willing and able to support my cause of choice, but what I would love to be is selfish.

My place in this world is to educate people as to why I do what I do for the causes I support.  My place is to encourage, gently.  My place is to welcome with gratitude any likewise effort, and to accept any lack thereof.

I don’t feel nominating and therefore obligating anyone to my particular cause has a place in philanthropy.  By it’s definition, altruism is self directed.  It comes from within, not without.  It should not be forced.  I think it’s fantastic that amyotrophic lateral sclerosis is receiving enough attention to hopefully afford research towards a cure.  My father died of Multiple Sclerosis, a cousin of ALS.  Any advancement is glorious.  I am not comfortable with fundraising becoming the latest fad on Facebook or the Today Show.  Fads these days quickly become passe.  They are seldom sincere, although this is more likely because of the monster fads become because of their snowball effect.  Again, raising money is terrific, but if the spirit in which it is intended is lost in the act of fundraising, something else is lost along the way.

I encourage every person to search for a cause they can relate to, and to find a way to contribute.  It may be collecting bottles and cans for a local school trip to the Rose Bowl.  It may be bringing blankets to the local SPCA.  It may be hauling out the closet or attic for items suitable for the local rescue mission.  It may be working in a soup kitchen once a month.  It may be knitting caps for preemies or crocheting a blanket for Project Linus.  Simply speaking, if something speaks to your heart, you will find a way to make a difference.  It’s not up to me to tell you what that is.  I will encourage and support and may help facilitate if possible, but my heart already speaks to me.

Listen to your heart, and hear what it says.  And if it doesn’t say anything, be at peace with that as well.  People are inherently good by nature.  Last week I paid for the person behind me in the drive through at Dunkin Donuts.  That person may be a curmudgeon, but I am not and I felt so good that day, knowing I extended kindness to another.  That warm fuzzy feeling is the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.  And if yours is getting a bucket of ice water dumped over your head, I salute you.  I won’t participate, but I applaud your own participation.  I do ask that you ask people if they are ok with being nominated before they are called out on social media.

Friday brings a close to the work week.  I will rest myself this evening with a rousing game of Virtual Families.  I give of myself, and this makes me happy.  That is all I want.  It’s not the same as others, but it’s my happiness, which is all I need to be concerned with.

God bless, and if you have any comment, I welcome it.

an open letter to my utterly depressed significant other. AKA stuff we don’t say to each other.


I hate you.  No, I don’t hate you but I hate what you’ve become.  I hate myself.

You came back from active duty 23 months ago.  Since then, you’ve done practically nothing.  No job, no hobbies, no spending time with friends except for the very rare occasion.

Since I’ve known you, you have displayed a talent for avoidance.  Being an expert myself, I wish I would have kept my distance.  I can’t even deal with my own shit.

I called the MPs when I knew you were suicidal, but I didn’t do it out of anything other than love.  Even people in denial shouldn’t be given reign to kill themselves.

Your denial fucking pisses me off.  Despite multiple medical persons advising an antidepressant to help let steam off your pressure valve, you stubbornly refuse.  Which means you suck as a partner and I have no more patience for you.

Is this harsh?  Is this too much?  Am I heartless?

What I do know is if I refused to take my meds, which you know I take and you have an idea what happens if I don’t, you’d be royally pissed and wouldn’t talk to me.  So why do YOU get a pass?  You wanted to try it “your way”.  Because two years of trying it your way has done SO much for you.  Wake the fuck up and smell the coffee.  Which, by the way, the cup you brewed via the Keurig is still sitting on the table; apparently Skyrim is more important than everything else in your life, including coffee when you wake up at 1 p.m.

This is the part where I say that I don’t love you anymore.   The truth is I don’t love you enough to have to deal with your shit any longer.  My own shit is monumental and weighs several tons, without adding anything else to it.  Some may call me a bad person.  Some will likely call me a fucking bitch, and in all honesty I will welcome it, because that will be the time when I am not responsible for you anymore, bitch or otherwise.  You aren’t a bad person, but your approach to life is destructive.

I must also say that if you kill yourself, I will make it my job to tell everyone you know that you did.  Again, you don’t get a pass.  You have to be responsible for your own life and that has consequences, whether you want it or not.  If you fuck it up, your legacy will be weakness.  Your legacy will be denial.  Your legacy will be that despite multiple attempts to help you and support you, your ultimate refusal and complete lack of caring is what you feel is worth to give your family and friends.

By the way, the fact that you call me selfish for jostling you after your snoring has kept me up for 20 seconds is complete bullshit.  I have a very difficult time sleeping.  I am also the only person in this apartment who has a day job.  You can take a flying leap before I will apologize or feel sorry for doing whatever I can to preserve my sleep.

Do I sound angry?  You’re damn right I’m angry.  This argument should have happened years ago.

Let’s go back to me; I know it’s a foreign topic, but since I’m being a cold hearted bitch I want to remind you that I also exist, and I also have my own concerns.

I’m depressed.  I admit it.  I’m not feeling so bipolar these days, but the depression is deep seated.  All I want to do is eat and drink, and when I get home after working 10 hours and see you’ve done literally nothing since I’ve been gone, that makes me want to eat and drink even more.  I don’t blame you for my excesses, but I absolutely call you out for being a trigger for my crappy response to stress.

This week I took your shitty playstation game to work.  I don’t know why.  You still managed to avoid life just as skillfully as you would have if you were in the midst of a 14 hour marathon.  The game is simply an expression of the underlying pathology.

I’m not tired out from emotion as I would like to be, but mostly it’s because I’m so disgusted I don’t even want to be in the same room as you, let alone have a conversation.  Leave me to drinking in the spare bedroom with an audiobook and crocheting to do.  This is the highlight of my day.  I’m fat, I have no desire to do anything these days.  I’m getting to work an hour before I normally would.  Audiobooks are my favorite thing to listen to.  I hate myself, I hate my life.  I hate you.  I hate you for not being strong enough to admit you need more help than a short stint in the psych ward can give you.  I hate you for having no compassion for me and my circumstance.  I hate you for being weak when you could be SO strong.  I hate you for being depressed and refusing to do anything about it.  I hate you for snoring and disrupting my sleep, and for being a damn asshole about it.

On the other side of mental illness: a stranger dropped into a foreign land

So nearly every blog post I’ve written involves my existence as someone with a diagnosed mental illness, bipolar depression (with a wee bit of anxiety at times).  I’m so used to being the patient, I was completely blindsided by the sudden flip to the other side: a person who knows someone with a mental illness, who is in crisis.

I may as well be an English-only speaking urban white person parachuted into outer Mongolia.

A person I love quite dearly has had clinical depression for a few years now.  They decline to accept the diagnosis, and therefore decline any intervention, esp. pharmaceutical.  They did have a few sessions with a counselor about a year ago after calling me in the midst of a literal fit of despair; I was fortunate to have the means to get them to talk with a counselor that day.  They did continue with the counselor for a few months until that counselor retired and they never established with another.  They have been to see their primary care provider who did discuss the possibility of medication, but this has been declined.

This person has had many struggles and stresses in their life, definitely within the past two years there has been more than even I realized.  I’ve seen the clinical depression quite evident, and not simply because I’m a nurse.  They don’t have any hobbies or anything they really enjoy doing, or more accurately they don’t make time for these activities anymore.  They have a tendency to sleep for long hours and not have much oomph.  Without a job, the Army National Guard is their job and this is also another source of stress.

I got a call at 12:15 a.m. this morning; they were at a cross roads, and contemplating doing serious harm, doing irreparable damage to themselves and subsequently the lives of those around them.  And, to my utter dismay, their response was “I don’t care”.

I think my heart stopped for a few seconds.

So I’m trying to work through Seroquel sleep and help with this person who I love more than anything, who I know is reaching out for help.  The short is I didn’t get a solid “I won’t do anything stupid” from them, but I did reach them this morning by phone.  Three days on nine hours’ sleep, shit work with shit superiors, no guidance with the new job responsibilities, yeah I can definitely understand why this is overwhelming.

They’re away on training right now, so 1st I tried to call the armory their unit is based out of.  I got a voice mail and left a message.  After a few hours of nothing, I asked a co-worker whose husband is pretty high up in the air force for help.  She immediately called her husband who pointed me in the right direction and I made the call to the suicide prevention line of the particular facility they are at.

I’m glad to say that the military does seem to take mental health and well being of their soldiers seriously, and despite my utter lack of specifics, within an hour he was picked up by the MPs who brought him somewhere safe for evaluation.  We were on the phone at the time.  They asked “did you call someone?”  I answered “yes I did.  I don’t care if you’re mad at me”.  To my utter relief their response was “I’m not mad.  At least now I’ll have someone I can talk to”.

Don’t lose sight that although you may have your own health issues to deal with, there are others out there who need help dealing with their own issues.  The phrase “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink” is thoroughly frustrating because it’s true.  As a friend, a co-worker, a loved one, someone who cares, your job is to voice your concern to the one involved.  Whether or not they choose to act on your concerns is up to them.  That being said, if it gets to the danger zone, you should do anything you can to go over, above, and around the person to make sure they get the help they need in a crisis.  They may hate you, they may never speak to you again, they may spit on your grave.

Don’t lose sight that you may have had these feelings about someone else who has rallied troops around you when they were concerned with your survival, even if you thought it was a complete bunch of bullshit.

Ultimately, if all involved are alive to argue about the specifics later, I think that’s a win.

I didn’t look deeply enough to see just how much the stress has been affecting this person.  They are not one to talk about their feelings.  I also admittedly haven’t been doing anything to help alleviate the stresses which involve me and us.  That doesn’t mean I’m responsible for someone feeling like they have no recourse other than to not wake up, but it does mean I need to look closely at myself and make sure that although I have my own issues to work through, I need to make DAMN sure those around me whom I can’t live without know that without me saying it.  Words aren’t the only way to let people know how important they are to you.  If someone you love is struggling, whether or not they don’t choose to admit it or seek treatment, take that as an opportunity to let your deeds and actions remind them that they are loved, that they are irreplaceable.  They may still choose to do something unchangeable, but then again, maybe they won’t.

I wish for all who read this they do a solid for someone they love, and they recognize when someone’s done a solid for them.  We are all unique.  We all have our own struggles.  We all struggle but ours is individual.  We are ALL irreplaceable.  Please remember that.  The void left if you leave is like a black hole on the heart of everyone who has ever loved you, a permanent stain for which there is no filler.  Even if you don’t love you, there is someone who does and more likely there is someone to which you are the world.


If you need it, use it.  Use it for yourself, use it for someone else.  Asking for help, whether for yourself or someone else, is such a sign of strength.  You are stronger than you know, I promise.


Seroquel hangover and a trip to the grocery store.

I’m back on the Seroquel XR and after the 1st day of taking the 150mg tablet and feeling half stoned the next day at work I’ve only taken anywhere between 1/2 and 3/4 of a tab in the evening.  Thursday night I decided to try the full pill again, and I spent most of the day yesterday feeling like I was walking around inside of a dream.

Sounds weren’t as loud as they should be.  Anything I looked at seemed dull, soft.  Like being seen through a smudged lens.  The ‘bring out your dead’ scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail is a great reference; they shot that scene with pantyhose over the camera lens.  Everything was sorta fuzzy around the edges.  I went to the grocery store and even walking around Wegmans I couldn’t help but feel like my feet hitting the concrete floor was muffled by thin invisible pillows attached to my feet.

In New York state, we pay a nickel per bottle of soda, beer, and water as a deposit.  To get your nickel back you take the empties back to the store and feed them into machines which give you a voucher to take inside the store to get your money back.  I had bottles, cans, and glass to return.  The bottles & cans room at Wegmans is just that, it’s own room.  The floor is often sticky, esp. after a holiday.  After July 4th I damn near lost my flip flops more than once marching around the sticky floors trying to get my nickels back.  There’s an exhaust fan going the whole time, and if you’re in a skirt be careful or else you may end up pulling a Marilyn Monroe move (I’ve seen it).  I spent a few minutes feeding my returnables into the machines and the entire time I felt as if I had Mickey Mouse gloves on my hands.  Could I really feel the bottles?  I think so, I didn’t drop any of them.

I walked around Wegmans with one of their small carts, things still sounding muffled and looking fuzzy.  There was such a large amount of oblivion on the part of the other shoppers that after the third time I had to stand still for half a minute waiting for someone to finish what they were doing so I could proceed on my way down the aisle I began to wonder if I were invisible.  There’s a vendor stocking drinks, so I go around the aisle.  He’s at the other end of the aisle faster than I am.  Am I still asleep?  I thought he was stocking at the opposite end; his cart blocked the aisle which is why I went to the other end to begin with.

I came home with 8 cans of cat food.  Pippin only gets 1/2 can a day.  Added to the six already in the pantry, he’s good for a month.  On a plus note, I did pick the correct color of new cat food I bought by accident last time which Pippin loves so much he ate through the bag to get to it.

I bought more face wash, Spaghettios products were 5 for $5 so I bought some mini raviolis and some spaghettios with franks and I think there may be a spaghetti & meatballs in my pantry…word to the wise:  do NOT crack open a can of Mini Raviolis when you sit down to watch Python Vs. Gator on TV.

So kids, the moral of this story is stay in close contact with your psychiatrist.  I didn’t take any Seroquel yesterday since I felt so fricking stoned the whole day.  I checked my eyes when I got in my car after being in the store thinking maybe my pupils were dilated and to my surprise they were VERY constricted, which could explain the fuzzy look with which I was seeing everything.  I’m back to taking a partial dose along with my other pills (lamictal 150mg twice a day being the only other psych med).  I’ll call her on Monday and request a lower dose.  Great med, but trippy if the dose is higher than your system can adjust to.

FYI: I was going to type this up yesterday but I couldn’t.  I felt too funky.

Billboard diary round two: kids, save a draft periodically so the PC crash doesn’t wipe out all your work

Well, since this piece of shit PC keeps crashing without warning, the entire blog post I just spent 30+ minutes typing has gone out the window, and with it my good humor.  it’s a damn shame too, because I was witty and charming as well as smart.  Brevity is not my strong suit; hell it’s not even in the deck of cards I generally play with.  So, instead of getting the funny me, this garners the Battlestar Gallictus Interruptus version, which is NOT pleasant.

I’m in the middle of a stay-cation.  I took last Friday and this week off work mostly to catch up on TV shows which I did in three days (Deadliest Catch, The Musketeer), so I’ve moved on to a new Netflix marathon of Battlestar Galactica (the new one, not the vintage version).  I finished Hemlock Grove season Two in a day.

It’s been almost three weeks since my last post.  My boyfriend flipped over the last few posts, especially the one about the Latuda side effects (mostly the suicidal thoughts) and since it was on Facebook he was especially upset, telling me “Your mother doesn’t need to see that”.  It’s a public blog, not a secret journal.  I unlinked Facebook for his sake, but in all honesty since I get some satisfaction out of publicly regurgitating my thoughts on the billboard of life, he’s going to have to find a way to get over his dislike of my methods.  He’s always played his cards close to the vest while I’ve always been an open public book.  He doesn’t understand.  I don’t, really.  All I know is when I get the urge to regurgitate and I finally give in to it, I feel like a bottle of soda that’s been shaken hard, and finally has the cap unscrewed enough to let off the excess gas so it doesn’t explode.

I made my way back to the psychiatrist’s office and insisted on being placed back on Seroquel.  I was on it years ago, before it had an extended release version.  I did well on it, but at the time we changed to different meds as I was contemplating a pregnancy.  I’ve had two failed pregnancies since then, and don’t intend on failing again, so I’m not going to try.  I had to insist on Seroquel this time; the doc (actually a nurse practitioner  but doc types easier) wanted to try newer meds, hence Cymbalta and Latuda.  My sleep, which has been largely absent the past several years, has rejoined me at night, and since restarting Seroquel I’ve slept at least 5 hours at a single stretch most nights, which is remarkable.  I find even the Seroquel XR to be overly sedating, but my mood is okay, I’m not having suicidal thoughts, and I missed my sleep, damnit!Before-After

I had an old tattoo covered up a few weeks ago.  The tattoo was the 1st I got, back in 1990.  In 1992 I had my 1st ex-husband’s name tattooed beneath it (we went together to get matching tattoos; I have a cute rose on the top of my right foot and he’s got one on his arm) and in 1997 I had the name covered up.  The hummingbird is in remembrance of my Gram, who has passed away.  I really don’t have a cankle that bad; the angle was awkward when I took the photo.

I started physical therapy this week for bilateral chronic overuse issues of my hands & wrists.  I’m sick and tired of having to choose between doing my job and doing what I like to do.  I’ve knitted three dishcloths and crocheted another three dishcloths the past few weeks, but it’s been at the expense of my hands & wrists.  Typing during the day for work aggravates my discomfort and so does knitting/crocheting.  Most days I have to choose between typing my typical 90+ words a minute with no crafting or henpecking 50+ words a minute and hoping to get a few rows done before my hands shit the bed for the night.  That sucks.

My parents had their annual barbecue last weekend.  I came close to getting into a fist fight with the assholes next door but didn’t because of the girl rule which says “never fight in flip flops”.  My parents have two mini schnauzers who bark at everything and the night of the cookout at one point the dogs started barking and I heard someone next door swearing up a storm over it.  These assholes make David Koresh look like a nice housekeeper.   Their garden is literally planted over their cesspool.  Remind me to never accept an invitation to eat at their house.  I’ve seen raw sewage floating on their yard before, and have smelled it more than I’ve seen it.

It may sound lame, but after 14 hours of Battlestar Galactica yesterday, I’m ready to get back at it.  I had physical therapy today and then met mom for lunch, and now it’s time to find my pattern for the crocheted bottlecap trivet so I can make something to go with the dishcloths I made while I watch Starbuck & Apollo make their way through the cylon apocalypse.  I’m quite sure I’ll have more interesting and hair raising stuff to bitch about later, but for now I’ve got more deep, DEEP relaxing to do.